Letting Go

Most people the first person they ever fell in love with, not dated but LOVED, if they break up and didn't deal with the residual feelings of losing that person especially if it ended when the heart and head where not in the same place when they meet again those feelings will flare up again. It would be different if you were seeing each other often after the break up because that time would have helped to wean yourself off the person. The only problem is that most of the time we think when we walk away and other things, not necessarily people, occupy our lives and minds and we think it’s over. It’s only over when confronted personally within oneself. A bit like meditating on life and finding peace or making peace with the loss and accepting the hurt and allowing oneself to heal and then close that door and move on. Most people don’t do that. Our choices are what make our lives. We can say a lot ... but that won't change the facts. We never feel pain, hurt or flustered in the presence of someone we don’t care about. If you didn't care you wouldn't be having strong feelings towards that person even those of anger. The great thing is that it’s not the end either. Life shows that silver lines are only found on gray clouds so find your silver linings there and let them help you find your inner peace. Forgive yourself and deal with your feelings. What I think confuses the issue is that while examining our pain we also want to match it with the other person’s. This journey to inner peace should be about you and nobody else. Have that conversation that you hoped to have with your ex in the sanctuary of your mind and your heart and then say goodbye there. That is the place where you need to find your peace and finally your path away from your ex emotionally so that if you ever meet again whether you talk or don't your 16 year old self would have found peace and won't be rising from the dead to give you grief again.